In this edition of Anal 101, Stimulate That Prostate, I will be discussing the function of the prostate as well as ways to stimulate it.
For those of you who don’t know, I am a cisgender female. That means that I was born a female, and I see myself as a female.
This makes talking about prostate stimulation a little difficult.
I mean, I don’t have a prostate, the last time I looked, so why bother talking about it?
One, that’s what people voted for me to talk about.
Two, anal 101 is meant to be accessible to everybody.
So why not take the time to focus on a body part that about half of the population possesses?
With this post I hope to learn a few things about the prostate in terms of function as well as the benefits of prostate stimulation. Hopefully maybe you’ll learn a few things as well!
So what the fuck is a prostate?
The prostate is a gland that can usually be found in males.
It is responsible for making some of the fluid that nourishes and protects sperm cells in semen.
The prostate is about the size of a walnut and is located beneath the urinary bladder in front of the rectum.
Here’s the original link for the anatomy.
The seminal vesicles (which make most of the fluid for the semen) can be found behind the prostate.
The activity and growth of the prostate are stimulated by male hormones called androgens; the main androgen males produce is testosterone, which is produced by the testicles.
Let’s talk about how to stimulate that prostate!
You know how women/vagina-wielding individuals have a g-spot? And how some of them experience incredible orgasm through stimulating that spot?
Well, men have a magic spot as well! (No shit, really?!)
By stimulating the prostate, or the “p-spot,” men/prostate-wielding individuals can enhance their orgasms.
Basically, it’s the male g-spot.
The p-spot can be found by using a finger or a toy anally.
A lot of men are hesitant to experiment with their p-spot.
This is most likely due to norms in sexuality that are rooted in homophobia. In other words, there seems to be a stereotype that only homosexual men enjoy any sort of anal-play.
Which of course is complete bullshit.
But unfortunately, because of this toxic norm, there are men that are restricting their full capacity to experience pleasure.
But thankfully I have found a couple of guys that were willing to share their experiences.
One of the men I talked to has requested to remain anonymous. So for this post I’ll just refer to him as “Bob.”
Original, I know.
Bob states that prostate stimulation can provide stronger orgasms. However, one has to be in the mood in order to have such a stronger orgasm.
When I questioned Casquetero from The Casquetero Files, he said that he first did delved into prostate stimulation five years ago and still does it to this day.
He also stated that prostate stimulation, when done correctly, can feel kinda like this:
When asking more about Casquetero’s experiences, he said that prostate stimulation requires “an adequate toy to feel the enhancements. The first session tends to be uncomfortable. But when it’s done right, [p-spot stimulation] enhances the sensations and even helps in avoiding premature ejaculation.”
Where can you find this sacred p-spot?
According to Tristan Taormino, the p-spot can be found about “two to three inches in the ass and toward the front of the body” (16).
The p-spot can be found by using a finger or a toy anally (again, no shit. Wait, probably bad choice of words there).
I asked my two contributors to talk more about how prostate stimulation enhances their masturbatory sessions, as well as ways in which they stimulate their p-spots.
“Bob” said that he can reach orgasm just by stroking his penis, but it is possible for him to reach orgasm solely through p-spot stimulation alone. He likes to stimulate his p-spot with his fingers but is open to using toys. Lastly, he prefers to lie on his back to stimulate his p-spot.
This was interesting because I learned that Casquetero also likes to lie on his back, but he likes to keep one leg slightly bent. This allows the toy he’s using to be more easily inserted.
He seems to prefer using toys that resemble fingers. Some of the toys he likes to use include the Aneros MGX, a similar one from Pipedream, and The Cobra by Extreme Restraints.
Since he reviews a ton of masturbators, he usually uses those in conjunction with his prostate toys. Usually these toys have perineum pressure joints that further add to the stimulation.
Based on what I could gather from them, stimulating the p-spot may also require a bit of time and patience.
The main thing to remember is to listen to what your body is telling you. Be creative and figure out what works best for you.
This might be a bit of a challenge, especially in today’s society where there’s this stereotype that any male who enjoys anal-play is considered to be “gay.”
Enjoying anal-play does not necessarily mean you’re gay. This stereotype is just a form of homophobia that shames men into not pursuing their full desires.
Granted, not everyone with a prostate may like anal play, but they certainly shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to explore.
It is natural.
Anyone with a prostate has every right to explore it.
So if you’re a prostate-wielding individual and are curious about exploring the area where the sun don’t shine, here are a few wise words:
Hsi, R. Alex. Prostate Cancer Basics. 2014. 12 August 2016. <http://www.pctrf.org/prostate-cancer-basics/?gclid=Cj0KEQjw5Ie8BRCJ9fHlr_bH24cBEiQAkoDQcdzpzBHH48xs9j2Xcaau9BTjZGGRaWN3yd4ZkNkWEnkaAqNB8P8HAQ>.
Taormino, Tristan. “Our Asses, Ourselves: Anal Anatomy.” Taormino, Tristan. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. 2nd Edition. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 2006. 9-17.